This pregnancy is not like the other

Our second child is still a few months away from arriving, and I’m already feeling guilty about the lack of attention I’m paying her – at least in comparison to the first little human I grew.

When I was pregnant with our first, I read books and blogs and forums and all the handouts from my midwife. I sat around rubbing my stomach and researching what part of the baby was developing in my womb that week. I looked forward to my appointments, when we would chat about how I was feeling and listen to the heartbeat.

It’s slightly different this time around. Continue reading

An apology to everyone I talk to

I’ve been noticing something lately. I’ll walk away from a conversation, or review it in my head hours later, and realize I was only barely paying attention at the time. I missed an opportunity to truly connect with someone, or wasn’t the listening ear someone was seeking.

Sorry, everyone I’ve spoken to in the last few weeks.

Here are my excuses for this rather neglectful and rude habit I seem to have fallen into.  Continue reading

SAHM LUXURY?

I recently saw a post from a mom that just had a baby and needed to go back to work. Now I know that everyone’s situation is different, and there are a lot of families that have to go back to work to just make ends meet. I can only imagine how hard it is, having to leave my brand new baby. And this is not a “my job is job is harder than yours” scenario . But her comment about “being a stay at home mom” didn’t sit very well with me.

 I wish I didn’t have to leave my baby,

but I don’t have the Luxury of being a stay at home mom.

Let’s just go over what the word luxury is first. It is defined as “the state of great comfort and extravagant living.” HAHAHAHAHA. Sorry, I couldn’t help myself. Continue reading

The mom awards

We’re in the midst of awards season, with celebrities of all types taking home hardware for songs or movie roles. I don’t pay much attention, honestly, but it got me thinking about all the awards we could – and probably should – be giving to the incredible moms out there.

Parenting is often a thankless job, but sometimes just making it through the day is enough to earn mom a gold statue or at least a couple hours at the spa. Continue reading

Motherhood is a mind game

It was one of those days.

She was supposed to nap at her usual time, because then she’d be awake and refreshed to play with her aunt while I went to an appointment – alone, for a change.

But of course, because we had plans, she refused to sleep at the time she always naps. And not only would she not close her eyes, she also cried and cried. That’s not normal for her. So I cancelled with her babysitter and braced myself for a cranky toddler in a waiting room not designed with children in mind.  Continue reading

What I’ve learned from moms groups

When I was expecting our first, I downloaded a popular pregnancy app to my phone. At first it was just a way to track the baby’s development and compare her to random foods.

But then I discovered the community section. And more specifically, my “birth month board”. Here was a group of moms or moms-to-be, all due with our little ones in the same month. Despite being from literally all over the world with varying backgrounds and parenting ideals, we had the same pregnancy aches and pains, the same fears and worries, the same questions for our care providers.  Continue reading